When you decide you want something in life, your brain only shows you the good things that come from wanting that thing.
Your brain does not show you the struggle, discomfort, and negativity that comes from wanting that thing.
For me, I want to be fit and healthy. All I imagine is being able to run easily, being able to wear clothing more comfortably, and enjoying healthy foods.
What my brain does not show me in my little dream land, is that in order to get there, I have to do a lot of suffering first.
When I start out on this new path of being a healthier person, I imagine how easy it will be. Then, seemingly out of nowhere, I come against discomfort when I have a food craving for chips but all I have in my kitchen is broccoli and chicken.
My brain did not prepare me for this situation and because of that my subconscious, feeling brain takes over and suddenly I’m in my car on my way to the nearest corner store stocking up on junk food.
Then I wake up out of this subconscious state with half a bag of chips gone and cheeto dust all over my fingers and realize what I’ve just done.
‘Ah Fuck it’ is usuallly what comes out of my mouth next and then I finish of the chips and decide to start again Monday. Then Monday never comes and I’m on autopilot again for like 6 months until I wake up again and realize that I’ve gained 20 lbs.
Then the cycle starts all over again and I enter dreamland of all the great things and forget to think about the discomfort. This is my routine. It is hard. And it is hard because it goes against my programming and what I value.
So how do I change this?
I don’t know. To be perfectly honest, I haven’t figured this out yet.
And that is where I am in life right now. Trying to figure out how to change my values so that I value doing the hard work to get healthy above eating junk food.
It may seems really stupid to some of you to hear that I value junk food over being healthy, but I do. It’s not something that I consciously choose for myself, but I find myself with this fucked up value that I get to now deal with.
Changing your values isn’t as easy as just stating ‘I VALUE BEING HEALTHY’ .
You gotta change something deeper within yourself. You can say whatever the hell you want, but it doesn’t mean shit if you don’t act on it.
And acting outside of your values is HARD and humans are LAZY. We will only do hard things for so long before we give up and revert back to our usual way of doing things.
Our brains are made up of pathways that develop over time. The more you are consistent with something, the hard and firmer that pathway becomes.
With neuroplasticity it is possible to change those pathways, create new ones, and live a totally different life than you currently lead.
But it is HARD. It’s PAINFUL. It’s UNCOMFORTABLE.
If it isn’t, then nothing is really changing.
So here I am, figuring out how to tap into that level of hard that I can withstand and do long enough for it to become easy.
What is your hard? If you haven’t experienced anything hard in a while, then maybe it’s time to look hard at your life and see if maybe there are areas you can be working on and introducing some a little discomfort.